CLASSY

CLASSY

We may think or assume that the word “classy” just evolved with the new generation. Some people have developed this super ego just because they think they are classy, other people have suffered a low esteem because they think they aren’t classy. Some school of thought think classy people are materialistic people; some think classy people are arrogant people, while still some others think a truly religious person should not be classy.

Classy could be defined in some ways depending on individual’s perspective. First let me clarify that “classy” has absolutely nothing to do with pride and has nothing to do with worldliness or being materialistic. Classy can be defined in some different ways based on individuals perception or understanding. Encarta dictionary defines classy as “very stylish and elegant”; another dictionary defines it as “stylish and sophisticated”. I’d say classy has no comprehensive definition. For me classy means “grace and elegance”. If asked to define it I would say, a Classy person is a person whose life and character shows self respect, dignity, elegance, sophistication and style. 

Now let me correct some fallacies about it. Being classy has absolutely nothing/nada/zit to do with: wealth, beauty, fame, achievements, educational background e.t.c. Being class is projecting what you have within you onto the outside. Being classy is not in the “what” but in the “how.” It’s how you act, how you carry yourself, how you express yourself and how you live your life that determines class.

A few people who don’t have class are able to develop that quality and become truly classy. Doing this requires reflecting on your own self, recognizing those qualities that you are missing which would make you classier and working on all the necessary areas to build that attractive flair of class and sophistication.

One might ask why bother to be classy. There is a popular quote which says “dress the way you want to be addressed”. When you know your worth and you project yourself with finesse and decorum then you are classy. Two ladies could be given the same piece of cloth with equal value it doesn’t mean everyone would appreciate the cloth on the two of them equally. What makes the different is the manner each lady wears the cloth. Being classy encompasses a lot. However, here are some fundamental qualities you must possess as a classy person.

Looking good is good business. Whether you agree with me or not, it is essential for everyone to look good. Remember without saying a word your looks already defines you. Always dress in a clean and presentable way, never wear anything you feel uncomfortable in. It is important to remember that modesty is key to earning the respect of others. Am not saying you should follow the latest fashion trends neither am not saying appreciating fashion or buying clothing you find attractive is wrong. Remember following temporary, mediocre fashion trends and fads certainly does not add to being classy. Define your own style and most importantly stay in control. The clothing you wear should enhance your personality, not create or alter it. Define your own style.

Treat people right. Classy people leave their environments in a condition at least as good as they found them. Classy people don’t look down on other people no matter their position or status. And when others do favors for them, while stuck-up or spoiled people assume it's only to be expected and ignore others' assistance, truly classy people are quick to notice and to express their gratitude and their appreciation. Never hesitate to say thank you to people even if they were just doing their jobs.

Be open to personal development. Do not berate yourself, but be receptive to constructive change. In our world, change is constant. Be a positive and flexible part of it and show others the way as well. Face life rather than burying your head in the sand and others will know instinctively that you are someone whose opinion counts.

Educate yourself. Sometimes we think education is limited to what we learn in an institution. How wrong we are. To be classy you need to have a broad knowledge on a lot of things, “real life” education, wit, sense of humour e.t.c. There is no way around it, perceived class has little weight and value if the person behind it has no interesting thoughts, opinions, views or observations. Being classy requires an ability to share, challenge ideas and be an engaging company.

Demeanour and Manners. I would say this applies more to women. A classy woman is in touch with her femininity. Her mission in life is not in challenging men and competing with men whenever possible; rather she enjoys her femininity without feeling ashamed of it, and is proud to be a woman. She recognizes the differences between men and women in psychology, physiology and sexuality and accepts those differences as the laws of nature. However, this does not stop her from being ambitions or aiming for the peck of whatever sector of life she finds herself. A classy man does not treat a woman as an inferior gender rather he shows her the love and respect due to her and he understands she also plays a significant role in the society.

Classy means Elegance. Elegance is the manner in which a person carries himself or herself in just about every situation. Elegance is in your voice, movement/body language, manner of speech, the way you stand or sit, and response to other people around you. Some of these traits, such as voice, and a walk – are part of our nature, while other elements of elegance, such as our interpersonal skills are strongly linked to our upbringing. Other qualities are acquired through habit or from friends and not all of them can be altered. However, when it comes to elegance and class, there is no such thing as small and insignificant because class is a sum of many elements of one’s personality, behaviour, and actions, some of which are more obvious than others, but all of which are essential for the “total package” to be considered elegant and classy.

Good Hygiene. Class cannot coexist with dirt, bad smell and unappealing habits such as burping, spitting in public and the likes. The most beautiful woman would lose much of her sex appeal when she farts, wipes her nose with her sleeve, keeps snots in  her nose, sits carelessly, allows her under garment to show. Same thing applies to a man who farts in public, talks loudly with food in his mouth, wipes his hands on his clothes after washing them, doesn’t wash up after taking a leak . . . and the list goes on.

Importance of Subtlety. This is one of the most important qualities and distinguishing characteristic of class. To be classy, you must be subtle in many areas of your life. Subtlety implies a degree of moderation, lack of flamboyance, lack of impulse to attract attention, and generally not trying too hard. A subtle woman has style but she doesn’t look like a designer model; she dresses sexy but does not look trashy like a typical stripper when going out; she puts such a small amount of perfume and make-up that one can barely tell that she has any; she talks just enough but certainly not too much and tends to be on a quite side; her laughter is pleasant to hear but not too loud; she hardly ever swears; and her voice is soft and sensual. A classy woman will usually come across as “low-key” in a social situation. This is not to say that she is shy or lacking confidence. On the contrary, her confidence puts her at ease and relieves her of any desire or need to validate herself to her company.

Being classy clearly requires work in these and many more avenues of one’s personality.

As you read this, am sure you must have smiled, clicked your tongue or even pause to take a quick look at yourself and asked yourself if you are classy. If you are, keep it up, if you came up short all you need is a little work, but if you aren't….well there is yet still hope for you.

Cheers.